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When you have been pushed around and treated badly, that is bullying. No matter if the actions take place in school, work or family situations, it is still bullying. How does this make you feel? Angry, defensive, bitter, fearful, unloved, rejected among other things? We are going to talk about all of these emotions eventually.

Let’s break down the emotions involved in your spirit when you are bullied. First, you feel defensive because you have been treated with evil. Yes, it is evil when someone bullies others. Treating others badly is not of the kingdom of God but of darkness. Jesus is pure love while doing evil to others is living in the law of sin. Oh, no one can be perfect but we can sure work on ourselves to be more pleasing to God, others and ourselves.

When bullied do you feel rejected and unloved? I sure do. In the past, there were times I just wanted to get back at the person who crossed my boundaries repeatedly. My defenses came up. However, do not repay evil with evil. You are no better than they are if you do. God’s word says we are to repay evil with good, but if you have feelings of unloving and rejection, you cannot do so. You have the same spirit as the one who is doing the bullying. Yes! They are full of rejection and unloving. Domination and control make them feel better about themselves even though inside they feel exactly the opposite.

You are wise though, as you can learn to overcome those thoughts, feelings and actions. Remember to take every thought captive. Take a few seconds or minutes to contemplate the situation so you don’t fall into the trap of bullying, yourself. Temptation is not a sin. Acting on the temptation is sin if the action does not fall in line with the word of God.

When you can live without defensive protective mechanisms, being triggered by other people, than you are living in freedom. I am speaking from personal experience. When we use the tools in God’s word, you will experience peace even when bullied. Listen I am not advocating staying in an abusive situation, by all means you need to access your situation and take action. What I am talking about is being free from “your reactions” to bullying in any given situation. Separate yourself spiritually even if you cannot do so physically. Take your peace and live in freedom from bullying.