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What ever you compromise to keep,  you will end up loosing. The second way the comment was worded by Beth Moore is as follows: "anything we have to manipulate to get, we rarely get to keep."

Wow think of the significance of those comments. Both mean the same thing.  Two words struck me strongly.  Compromise and manipulation.

Compromise can be giving way, not standing for what we really think, feel or believe in. Compromising can be in the area of making a trade off in life, even though we know it really isn’t what God wants for us. We settle for  a bad abusive relationship, because perhaps we fear getting out.  We let our kids have there way, when we know it isn’t for the better. 

Manipulation is somewhat different. Manipulation has different forms, it can be physical, verbal, or passively done. It is conniving and underhanded way to get "your way".   Doesn’t it appear that compromise can be a direct result of some form of manipulation?

Manipulation is plainly wrong, howeve I believe done correctly comprise can be healthy. When both parties are working on resitution and coming to the table in a calm manner, I believe that each needs to give and take. Compromise, have an amicable agreement with each other to bring about healthy results.

Really if we have to compromise ethical and moral values than we are falling into sin.  Peer pressure is a perfect example of youth compromising the truth of moral and ethical values to "fit in".  I will save that for another soapbox.

I have been manipulated emotionally and have compromised my values and those of my kids.

Now that I have dug out of the pit I can see my mistakes. I can see that  the person who has done the manipulating is loosing pretty much all.  

The statement that, "anything we manipulate to get, we rarely get to keep" is so true! 
Think about this in your life. 

• Ask yourself what you have wrangled about getting.
• In the end did it even satisfy your soul for long.
• When I have manipulated in the end it was a hollow victory.
• Don’t compromise your ethical and moral values and don’t manipulate to get your way.
• Don’t let others put that type of bondage on you.

Be aware of manipulation and only compromise when the agreement is ethical and moral and healthy for both parties.