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Loss of a child is very traumatic. I will not pretend to know what it is like to loose a child, as I never have. However I am very familiar with grief. I have lost a mother to a horrible car accident and a husband to an accident as well. 

Neither are pleasant.  Grief is a lot of work emotionally, spiritually and even physically.  Never in my life have I felt such incredible pain.

This week a young woman, who grew up in our community, was killed in a car accident in a snowstorm.  She was in her early 30′s and was with her fiance. He is in critical condition.  My heart breaks for him as the future is  bleak. His life is forever changed. Not only does he need to fight to survive but has to deal with his very beloved future wife’s death.  I pray for him and his complete recovery.

Her family lives in this community. They are great people, who I will pray for as well.

How quickly life can change. In the blink of an eye, so totally unexpected. I have learned to be ready to die. Die and being with the Lord is not to be feared. 

For me it is the process of dying that can be the fearful thing.  Yet in the last few years, since I have worked with the tools in God’s word the fear of the process isn’t great. There is no reason to fear the process as we don’t have to die of disease, instead old age.

Going back to sudden death, what a totally shock. The first step in walking through the process of grief in sudden death is:

DENIAL  than ACCEPTANCE 

Denial can go on for months for some people yet others come to terms with the fact  that their loved one is gone rather quickly.

For me it was a difficult concept with my mom.  She was so mutialated from the accident that we were not able to see her. Seeing a casket that I was told contained her body, just didn’t compute in my grief stricken brain.  It took me many months to come to terms with her death. In my head i knew she was gone from this earth and present with the Lord.   

However my heart was not so ready to accept that fact. I had many sleepless nights along with buckets of tears.  Many nights I would spend hours in the rocking chair seeking the face of God, trying to find answers to the hard realities of this world.

In my next post I will talk more about grief and the process, with different aspects of healing and recovery.